Have you ever ask yourself things like
self why did you let me do that?
Or
self what were you thinking?
Or
Self are you really that stupid?
Well I sure Do and Man I can never get a straight answer when i do either!
I have to question my own sanity at these times
I start to think that i must really be crazier then i thought.
especially when it comes to the choices i make regarding my daily life
like for started back in August of 08 i took in a 14yr old boy
I thought at the time it was the right thing to do
man i could not be further from the truth on that one
The arrangements were made by the Djj & Dss court systems
out here for his placement with me
he was to be warded to me until his court case came up
at that time a placement would be made
I was assured that his parents would provide support for him
as I was not lic. as a Foster parent and could not be paid
by the state.
well that was a joke and a half there they have not paid a dime
after a month of living with us
things in our home began to break or be lost
always with the claim it wasn't me or i do not know
His temper was uncontrolled and he was quick
to start destroying our stuff doors,windows,walls,ext.
He wanted to be the big man in the home the
Alpha male so to speak
and well being he was far from it that made him very aggressive
with the my three children .
when he asked if he could bring his male beagle dog
here i had to say no as i already
have a full house and was not willing to add another
shortly after we noticed his treatment of our dogs had
become questionable
then outta the blue three of them came up dead
I know it was him but I have no way to prove that
this was in March of 09 I went to his parents and the DSS
and demanded he be removed
but no one did anything it was like screw you
you took him you deal with it
life here had become so stressed my youngest moved to my
mothers for a time to get away from him
DSS ignored all my calls and pleas for help as did his parents
DJJ claimed they could do nothing with out a court order
but no one would do anything to get it
It had gotten so bad that my children took to complete avoidance
none wanted to even be in the same room with him
and all wanted him out
I was so frustrated and angry with him I did not even
wish to look at him for fear i would
say or do something cruel
By May I was at my wits end I called a meeting
of the DSS & DJJ staff involved with his case
and demanded they find him new placement by the end
the school year
School let out June 2nd i was told they would take
it to the courts by then
but no later then June 23 rd yeah right sure
they would
I became angry and very disgusted with all of them
but most of all with his parents
because with every step they made it harder
and made him more difficult to handle
I Finally Had enough when July had come and he was still here
I called DSS and told them straight either
you get him out of here or i am going
to drop him at the nearest police station and let them deal
with him I told them I would wait no longer
if he was not removed before the 4th I would
remove him myself
I found it absolutely amazing when they showed up
on the 3 rd with a new court order for his placement
Make ya wonder just how long they had it
and why they would not do any thing sooner to
help when it may of been fixable?
since then i have asked myself almost daily
WTF were you thinking
why would you let me do that
How stupid are you
Keep in mind there is much more to this
story i am forbidden to repeat in a public forum
I only mentioned the things I could mention
so please do not ask why he was removed from his home to start with
or Why his parents were still involved or why I needed that court system
I can not by law answer any of those question.
I did however learn a very Important
lesson in this venture
Never Again Will I Ever Help Any One
In This Way Again!!!
I have removed the Dumb Ass Tattoo
from my forehead and turned off the
neon Sucker Sign on the front door permanently
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